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23 December 2011 in

A great 'fuck' is irreplaceable.

DECEMBER 26, 2011

I'm not much for disclaimers, this space is an outlet for my random thoughts and I'm not forcing any of you to keep reading. However, since profanity is the topic here and since profanity is offensive to some here goes the disclaimer: 

The content of this post deals with mature subject matter that is not
suitable for children and may be offensive to some readers.
If you are sensitive to humorous but not the most appropriate topics
please pick up a copy of 'Mary Poppins' at a book store near you and enjoy. 
On the other hand, if you're thick skinned and open minded read at your own risk.

That takes care of the formalities, now lets move on.

What I am about to say will make English teachers cringe. Profanity is really not so bad and in some instances it is indispensable. 'Fuck' is ok! At least it's a real word, unlike lol, idk, omg, wtf, brb, lmao and all the other acronym sentences floating around. I believe that words are just that, words. We are the ones who give them their power, we are the ones who give them their meaning. I also believe that 'fuck' can be great and a great 'fuck' is irreplaceable. Consider the following scenarios:

Smashing your funny bone. First of all that shit is not funny. Secondly, as the feeling of immense pain and the urge to throw up overcomes your body "fudge" doesn't  appropriately describe what just took place. Now, not only are you in pain, but the words "oh fudge that hurts" are coming out of your mouth. That has to be so unsatisfying, plus you look like an idiot. You might pull it off if you're a child, otherwise just let that 'fuck' slip! You're a grown up and the world can handle it.

That 'I'm so blown away' moment. There are moments in each of our lives which take our breath away or challenge our comprehension. Falling in love. Seeing a lunar eclipse. Getting hit by a semi-truck and surviving. Falling off of a ladder and dying. A stranger's kindness. The workings of the human body. The synchronicity of the universe. The truth is that complex phenomenon surround all of us. I don't know about you but many of them make me think "holy fuck, that's incredible!" Some might consider this vulgar however, as I see it, "gee whiz that's neat" just doesn't do that blown away moment justice.

The third event in the bad event trinity. I don't know if bad things actually happen in three's because it is the natural state of our world? Or because everyone says that bad things happen in three's so that is the pattern we pay attention to? Nonetheless, that isn't really the point here. When a string of  terrible stuff happens you don't want to be left with - "oh gosh darn it, that's just so unfortunate I really hope my luck goes back to being super dooper soon." Since we're not in a TV show from the 50's think Reese Witherspoon circa Pleasentville, it's safe to say that in some instances you just want to say "fuck this is brutal!" and I don't blame you. There really is only so much we can take. 

The bedroom. This is pretty self-explanatory. 

Please do not misunderstand what I'm trying to say. I'm not proposing that we walk around swearing with every sentence and teach our children the joys of using 'fuck' in their language. I am educated, polite and fully understand that profanity has no place in certain situations. What I am saying is that like everything else, used appropriately and in moderation profanity has it's place in the way we communicate because we have given it a meaning which can't be easily replaced.

Let me know what you think.


the outspoken introvert

26 October 2011 in ,

It's all in a laptop...

OCTOBER 26, 2011
I have not abandoned my blog. Although it does seem that way. I have been suffering from broken laptop syndrome! My suffering has been greatly deepened by the lovely customer service staff at Staples. By lovely, I clearly mean awful and if there was a sarcasm font I would use it on my last sentence.

The short of it is, my laptop has been out of commission and "getting fixed" for the past month; still not luck of the actual repairs getting anywhere. My blogging ability relies heavily on a computer which is in proper working order. Staples however is pretty insistent on their shitty way of doing things! The moment they decide to do what I have actually paid them to do, I will be back in business.
What has happened to good customer service? Actually, never mind "good", what happened to customer service in general? Is it a thing of the past, that thing that happened back in the day when soda was a nickel and our parents walked to school both ways, not to mention UPHILL!?

I have to admit I've been going a little nutty without being able to empty my mind. Alas, this time has given me the opportunity to come across some pretty interesting topics which I can't wait to share. I will be back!

the outspoken introvert 

17 September 2011 in

What do I know? What do you know?

SEPTEMBER 17, 2011

With a little over a year left in my twenties I have been trying to put my "life" together. The funny thing is, I don't think it's necessarily the brink of my thirties that's bringing this on. Truth be told I've been questioning life and it's purpose since I was a kid.

When I was in my early teens I thought twenty-five was the coolest age of all time ever. In my naive heart I knew I would have it all figured out and together by then, surely. Then twenty-five came and went, and well having it all "figured out" was not on the agenda.

Now, almost twenty-nine I still feel like I'm all over the place. I'm starting to think that's just my natural state of being. Although I don't have all the answers to life as I know it, here's what I do know:

If you truly want to do something you will find a way to do it, if you don't all you'll find is an excuse.

Stay away from making permanent decisions based on temporary feelings.

Quality is always better than quantity. This rule applies to everything, especially people!

Not everyone is going to like you, that's ok. You don't have to like everyone and that's ok as well.

Some people will break your heart, your spirit, your hopes and your dreams. Sometimes life works out like that. Take what you've learned and walk away accepting that you've changed because of it. Another human being can only break you if you hold onto all their useless shit.

Don't be afraid of falling in love. Fear is crippling, love is worth it.

Live your life honestly, it's less stressful.

Time is valuable. Don't waste your time, or the time of others. EVER.

Hang out with people that love and encourage you, the other ones aren't worth the effort.

Keep gossip to a minimum. It's a part of life but it should not be your whole life.

Expectations ruin everything! If you expect too much be prepared to be disappointed. Not everything happens according to a carefully crafted plan, so live a little and go with the flow.

It is absolutely ok for things to go right sometimes, they don't always have to be a struggle.

Family, friends, love, health. Does anything else really, truly matter?

Take the time to appreciate people and what they do for you. Nobody likes to feel taken advantage of, returning a favor and gratitude are imperative.

If he cheated on her to be with you, he'll cheat on you to be with someone else. Math is not my strong suit but I believe it's something called probability.

Dating is so freakin' complicated. There is too many ways to define a "relationship". I can no longer keep track.

Actions speak louder than words, ALWAYS! This is not up for any sort of discussion, there is no and's, if's or but's about it. It is just plain simple truth.

What do you know?

the outspoken introvert

12 September 2011 in

Chivalry, sexist?!

SEPTEMBER 12, 2011

I have been meaning to write about this for a while but have had difficulty finding the time, go figure! A couple months ago a friend forwarded an article my way "Chivalry isn't dead. It's just terribly sexist."  

I must say I had a laugh when I read the title. I knew right away that this was sent with the intent of poking fun at my somewhat feminist stance. The article talks about a recent study Seeing the Unseen published in Psychology of Women Quarterly. It proposes that we engage in sexist acts everyday without even realizing it. More specifically it argues that chivalrous acts translate into benevolent sexism.

At first glance I was appalled by the idea. How can holding the door, paying for dinner or helping with the groceries be considered sexist or demeaning to women? As far as I was concerned those were acts of kindness and the display of good manners. After giving it some thought I realized the issue is actually very complex and that the study touches on some interesting points.

On a strictly theoretical level, motivations behind the actions have to be considered. Is the help being offered out of kindness or is it offered with the belief that women are weaker? Although the study seems frivolous at first glance, it argues that sexism at the smallest level reinforces blatant sexism throughout our society. For example, the expectation that a man should pay for the first date reinforces the fact that men on average earn a higher wage and therefore should spend more in order to feel masculine. 

The reality is that sexism remains a problem. Not only because of the effect it has on women but because of the effect it has on our interactions with one another. In my opinion, there seems to be an attitude present that says 'women got their equality, so shut up about it already'. Anyone who looks at the issue a little deeper knows that equality is not quite there yet. Who knows maybe it never will be.

Women's fight for even footing has definitely shaken the masculine identity; the gender roles are not as well defined as they used to be. I can see how this is frustrating to a man. It seems that Feminism chipped away at what many men consider their rightful place at the "top", as if that wasn't enough. Now, holding the door open is wrong!

As the war of the sexes wages on this is what I think, practically not theoretically. If you have a guy who's willing to help with the groceries, dishes, technology, door opening or any other act considered chivalrous hold on to him. My guess is this - he's either wanting to impress you or he truly cares about you. It can't be disregarded that the well mannered behaviour was probably passed on by his mother. So maybe, sometimes we just need to give the guy a break.

I'd love to know what you think? Do you consider chivalry an act of kindness or an act of oppression?

the outspoken introvert

11 August 2011 in

Thanks....BUT no thanks

AUGUST 11, 2011

So, speed dating. It’s like looking forward to a meal at a restaurant you’ve never been to and then getting food poisoning. It can be easily said that it was not my thing. I mean it wasn’t absolutely horrible, but I will not be doing it again. 

It definitely pushed me out of my comfort zone, which is not a bad thing but I didn’t like the obligation of having to talk to people I didn’t want to talk to.  Sure there were a couple of times when the conversation was easy and genuine, but most times it was just fake and awkward. I’ve spent a number of years in sales so I've gotten good at knowing the difference.

I realized I was part of a cliche when a guy actually started talking about how much money he made. I mean, in that short of an amount of time if the only thing you have to fall back on is your bank account, we have nothing in common. I am perfectly capable of earning a pay cheque and if there is nothing to you past your salary, I'm just not interested.

I don’t want to entirely bash the event. It does get you out there and makes you interact with people you would have probably not met otherwise. I'm sure it works for some; I am not one of them. At least now I know that from firsthand experience.

the outspoken introvert

08 August 2011 in

Well, why not?

AUGUST 8, 2011
Anyone who knows me, knows that I don't deal with awkward well. As soon as a situation heads in that direction I bail. This might be part of the reason why dating has not really been my thing. I'm not talking about the first stages of dating which are awesome; looking forward to a text, the kiss, the butterflies, the laughs and the late night conversations. I'm talking about the awkward parts of dating, no chemistry, terrible jokes, unwanted personal questions, or even worse awkward silence. 

These parts pretty much come with instructional videos nowadays. Every news stand has at least one magazine bursting with tips on the do's and don'ts. There have been countless books written on the subject. I mean clearly in order to be able to date successfully one must be educated in this tough to crack social interaction. It seems that saying or doing one little thing wrong leads to complete disaster. Oh and if you wear the wrong outfit you might as well have stayed at home. If your shirt is cut to low you're slutty but if it's not low enough you're a prude. So pick up a Cosmopolitan and some measuring tape to really nail that perfect cleavage. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't show up to a first date in my pajamas. Looking good and put together nicely is important, because it makes you feel more confident; but I wouldn't spend hours in front of the mirror. Even writing about it is exhausting, but that's just me and I've always been terrible at following directions.

All of the relationships I've had, have always come from casual hanging out and co-incidental encounters. The no pressure sort of thing. I'm pretty sure I wore a hoodie half the time. No blind  dates, random set ups or awkward dinners for this gal. Like I said I stay away from awkward. It's not that I'm socially awkward, to the contrary actually, I'm outgoing and can hold up my end of pretty much any conversation. However I'm also blunt, stubborn, and opinionated, sprinkled with my charmingly sarcastic sense of humor. Oh yea and  I have an itsy bitsy tendency to say the wrong thing at the wrong time, kind of - a lot of the time. 

This is why going speed dating tomorrow night is quite out of the ordinary for me to say the least. 25 people, 7 minutes per person. 7 minutes with someone you don't want to talk to can basically seem like 7 hours. But I'm going to step out of my element and see how it goes. There is a very good possibility that I will dread every second of it. Being bombarded with personal questions by a bunch of strangers is not my idea of a good time by any stretch of the imagination. BUT, on the flip side of things it could actually be fun. So I'm going to stick with that until proven wrong by actual events. The venue is great and I'm going with my best friend, if anything it will be good for a laugh. Plus meeting new people, if they're awesome, is always a good thing. Right?

the outspoken introvert

04 August 2011 in

A Little Game of "IF"

AUGUST 4, 2011

Q: If you could change one thing in the world right now, what would you alter?
A: The human pursuit of more, also known as greed.

Q: If you could permanently alter one thing about your physical appearance, what would you change?
A: My un-proportionately  big toe, yea a huge thanks to my mom on that one. Good thing she passed on her awesomely blue eyes to make up for it.

Q: If you could have stopped ageing at any point in your life up to the present, how old would you want to remain?
A: At this point, 25. That was an awesome age! I was old enough to be taken seriously but young enough to make mistakes and not be judged for them.

Q: If you could have personally witnessed one event in history, what would you want to have seen?
A: This is a tough one. I would have loved to see the fall of the Berlin wall. It was a world changing event which was driven by change and the desire for things to be better.

Q: If you could be guaranteed one thing in life besides money, what would you ask for?
A: LOVE! The world does not turn without it, ok technically it does but without love what’s the point?

Q: If you could have been the author of any single book already written, which book would you want to have penned?
A: Hands down, “Gone with the Wind”! Scarlett O"Hara was my idol and Rhett Butler was oh so dreamy. What a pair.

Q: If you were to have your friends, in private, attribute a single quality to you, what would you want it to be?
A: Loyalty.

Q: If you could be the current world champion in any sport, which sport would it be?
A: Figure skating, my career in this particular sport was short lived – because well, I sucked.

Q: If you could eliminate one habit you have, what would you stop doing?
A: I would without a doubt quit smoking. Thus far the only thing I have successfully quit, is quitting.

Q: If you had to describe your idea of a perfect mate, how would you do it?
A: I’m sure that I could come up with some elaborate lovey-dovey way to answer this question. But in all honesty the answer is plain and simple. He could not be perfect, because I would never be able to keep up. However if he gets my jokes and is able to love me when I least deserve it, then he’s perfect for me.

You're more then welcome to play along, answer any of the above questions in the comments section or copy and paste the whole thing to your blog. Whatever suits you best.

the outspoken introvert

03 August 2011 in

Random Ramblings...

AUGUST 3, 2011

My little sister got married recently. The day was filled with love and laughter. It was full of style, sunshine, happy tears and since it was a Polish wedding there was no shortage of booze.  This particular day not only pulled at my heart strings but got me thinking. Leave it to a wedding hey! To bring forth ideas which you are more than happy to leave in the back of your mind on most other occasions. What follows is a random gathering of those ideas, not listed in any particular order.

It is almost impossible to achieve happiness through perfection.
Although I realize this I am still guilty of shooting for "perfect" from time to time. I have gotten better with age because I realize that perfection is boring, perfection is stressful, and perfection never turns out as good as I'd hoped. Happiness is found in those unexpected, unplanned breathtaking moments when you can really let go. Trying to hold on and control everything, all the time, is exhausting. Plus when you're that wound up how can you pay attention to the amazing things which are right in front of you? As far as I'm concerned you can't, most of us are not that great at multitasking. I said it is ALMOST impossible to achieve happiness through perfection because some people seem to pull it off. In my opinion they fit into two categories, liars and robots.

"Why?" Has super awesomely magical powers.  
I have preached questioning the things that surround us many times. I believe it is an integral part of our development. I believe it is equally important to question ourselves, question our actions. This is where the magical power of the "why?" resides. Asking why we're doing something leads to a better understanding of our behavior and what motivates us to action. On the flip side of that coin rests "why not?" another important question one has to ask. Trust me when I say that everybody is their own worst critic and harshest judge. This kind of self-questioning makes us assess our behavior based on advantageous and disadvantageous actions and simply put might prevent us from doing something utterly stupid. This of course is not full proof. 

Happiness is not for the weak! Do you have the balls to do it?
Everyone strives to be happy, but it has been my observation that not everyone can handle it. This is because there is HUGE risk in happiness. In order to be happy you have to venture into the unknown. You have to take chances on things which could potentially hurt you, or another person. This kind of thought process creates fear and self-doubt. We let that fear stifle our potential for happiness. We let it keep us in a little box because that appears to be more comfortable.

It takes balls to go after the things that make you happy. We have a tendency to live our lives in the future. Wrecking possibilities before they have even had a chance to arrive. This especially applies to marriage. People are either willing to take a chance on it or they are petrified of it. Those who are scared justify their fear with the possibility of an eventual break up. What we forget is that you can't live a lifetime in a day. However if what you're doing makes you happy today and it makes you look forward to tomorrow then keep doing what you're doing. Because today, leads to tomorrow, which leads to a week and a month and that's how you eventually create a lifetime. 

the outspoken introvert

18 July 2011 in

Reach for the stars....c'mon do it!

JULY 18, 2011

"Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark. 
In the hopeless swamp of the not quite, the not yet, and the not at all, do not let the
hero in your soul perish and leave only frustration for the life you deserved, but never have been able to reach. The world you desire can be won, it exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours."
                                                                                                                                    - Ayn Rand 

16 June 2011 in

What's Your Personality Like...

JUNE 16, 2011

My diagnosis:

"Quiet and very self-assured, you tend to keep your own council. Pragmatic and practical to a fault, you are not one to worry about the finer points of philosophical discourse. In fact, because you are very much an individualist, you often find yourself at odds with the established truth or the wishes of the majority. You will often earn the wrath of an employer by taking upon yourself decisions which are rightly those of your manager. You are not one to take credit unless it is deserved. Similarly, however you will also not happily give credit where it is not due. In a romantic relationship you can be very frustrating. While you do care deeply and sincerely, and are willing to work at a relationship, your confidence in your own abilities can on occasion make it difficult to see the world from a partner’s point of view. Quiet and stoic at times, you can drive a more emotional individual completely up the wall. You can become overstressed and fatigued without knowing it. Taking time to rest between bouts of hard work can help to prevent a breakdown later on."

I'm a sucker for personality tests, I especially get enjoyment out of them when they are accurate. Sometimes I discover things I didn't realize about myself other times things which I should maybe change or work on. I came across an interesting one the other day, check it out HERE. I was surprised with it's accuracy, especially because of the format. This test is based on feeling more so then the typical "strongly agree or strongly disagree" profile. I'd say my results are pretty bang on, minus maybe the "quiet" part, vocally I'm actually pretty loud. Try to get me to talk when I'm upset about something or about feelings and well, let's just say the test results are not to far off with the "quiet" then.

Check it out, it only takes a few minutes! I would like to know your results if you want to share.

the outspoken introvert

13 June 2011 in ,

It Matters Monday

JUNE 13, 2011

This week's It Matters Monday is dedicated to a very good friend of mine! She's an artist and she's amazing at it. I want to help her get the word out, the more exposure the better, right?!...So here goes; I would love 2 introduce you to Amanda Edwards and her wonderful paintings.

Amanda is one of the most wonderful people I know. Her beautiful and funky art matches her quirky and fun personality. She's kind, patient, loving and so adorable! This lovely lady and what she does definitely make the world better and prettier. I hope you enjoy her work as much as I do. Without further ado, Amanda's Art:

If you want to be a part of It Matters Monday copy and paste the image from the top of the post. Mention It Matters Monday on your blog and link up below. If you're not a blogger, don't fret let me know what made your Monday awesome in the comments below.


the outspoken introvert

11 June 2011 in

Ideas Worth Spreading

JUNE 11, 2011

Cameron Herold is an entrepreneur at heart, his passion for business started at a very young age as he describes in his TED Talk. He urges parents and teachers to not only recognize but be supportive of entrepreneurial traits in kids. I agree with him, not every child fits the mold of the current curriculum. An example of that is an undergraduate degree in business, I always got a kick out of business classes geared towards getting a good job and working for companies instead of teaching how to create them. Seems a bit counter-productive, but that's just me.

This guy is worth listening to because in the last 20 years he's built up quite an impressive resume. Throughout his career he has coached entrepreneurs on five continents. He started BackPocket COO to help mentor young companies in order to help them achieve success. Ever heard of 1-800-GOT-JUNK? For seven years Cameron Herold was the Chief Operating Officer a driving force behind the concept which has resulted in one of the most successful ventures of the last decade. Herold's list of credentials goes on, I'll let him speak for himself. The above TED Talk is definitely worth your time.

If you're ever bored or feeling uninspired check out TED: Ideas Worth Spreading. I love it! This is taken directly from the site "We believe passionately in the power of ideas to change attitudes, lives and ultimately, the world. So we're building here a clearinghouse that offers free knowledge and inspiration from the world's most inspired thinkers, and also a community of curious souls to engage with ideas and each other."

the outspoken introvert

10 June 2011 in

Say WHAT?! I'm stylish...

JUNE 10, 2011

Thanks to Mollie from OK in the UK for this award! Her blog is hilarious and you should definitely check it out. It has made me laugh out loud or LOL on more than one occasion. I love her quirky and sarcastic writing style, most certainly a great read. 

OK, here goes 7 things about me:

1. I was born in Poland and moved to Canada when I was 12. Living in these two very different environments  has shaped my world perspective. Some like to call it the Pinko perspective, yea you know who you are. For the record Communism looks good on paper, in practice...MASSIVE FAIL! Therefore I support aspects of the Capitalist system, but with a strong stance on social welfare. Ah politics, I love it!  

(Pinko is a term for a person regarded as sympathetic to communism, though not necessarily a Communist Party member. The term has its origins in the notion that pink is a lighter shade of red, the color associated with communism; thus pink could be thought of as a "lighter form of communism" promoted by supporters of socialism who were not, themselves, "card-carrying" communists.) - Wikipedia

2. As time passes I realize that I want to be a writer, I love to write. I don't know if my skin is thick enough to handle the "constructive criticism" which comes with that territory though. This is part of the reason I started blogging, to test the waters, get feedback and toughen up!

3. It's my little sister's birthday today, I love her to bits and wish her the best day ever. She's also getting married in July, and I've been advised that the bridesmaid dresses arrived today. They are lovely and I really hope I still fit into mine. Yikes!

4. I'm a Scorpio. Make of that what you will.

5. I love music festivals, they are always a good time! You really can't go wrong with sunshine, music and a couple of brewskies. Unless of course it rains.

6. I wear my emotions on my sleeve, I might not want to talk about them but my eyes give everything away! This is very inconvenient for my "somewhat" secretive nature.

7. I'm trying to work the phrase "let's boogie" into my vocabulary, replacing such common phrases as "let's do it" or "let's go" - stirs things up a bit you know.

Well there ya have it! Since I just divulged my secrets I'm going to opt out from the last part of the rules which is to name 7 other bloggers. Those I would recognize get props from me on a regular basis through comments and such. I really appreciate the award but I was never good at following rules.

Have a wonderful weekend. Cheers.

the outspoken introvert

09 June 2011 in

How Important Is A Plan?

JUNE 9, 2011

My dad has a nickname for me, it's zig zag. Him and I don't agree on much but I have to give him that one. To the outside world my decisions seem random, hasty and not very well thought through. Things are not always what they seem though.

I used to have a plan, I had a well paying job, a cushy bank account and all the perks that went with it. However, as many of us know life has this funny way of, well, changing! I'm basically starting over now; I have moved back to my home town and am changing career paths entirely, which is a little terrifying but mostly exciting. Oh and that super fantastic plan I had seems utterly useless as it currently stands.

In the last couple of years unexpected things have happened, the economy tanking being one of them. I was forced to not only adjust but abandon my plan. I honestly couldn't be more grateful for that life lesson, although it was not an easy one. It taught me humility. It taught me that you can't always get your way. It taught me the limits of my capabilities. It taught me failure. It taught me to ask for help. Most importantly it taught me that the only plan worth having is learning how to dance in the rain.

Life will throw unexpected things your way pretty much all the time! Things which are not part of a plan. I have learned to consider all available options and make decisions at the time they need to be made not months ahead of schedule. I also don't discuss much of what I am considering because other people's perspective is not always beneficial and not always in your best interest. It's simply their interpretation of your situation. There are few people who know your situation as well as you do. So I'm here to set the record straight, my actions only SEEM random, hasty and not very well thought through. This is because I keep some things to myself and not having a rigid plan allows me to be flexible and adaptable, I don't necessarily see this as a negative.

I mean really, does anything in life work out exactly as you planned it?

the outspoken introvert

31 May 2011 in

All you need is love...

MAY 31, 2011

I just had to share this.

the outspoken introvert.

25 May 2011 in

Note to Self

MAY 25, 2010

Dear Self,

I was thinking that since this whole life thing is getting a little bit more settled you should stir things up a bit. Nothing extravagant, just something to keep you occupied in your spare time. 
In the next little while let's be better. 
I've complied an itsy bitsy list to get you started:

1. You don't know how to bake, this is something I think you should attempt. Realistically, nothing of the  negative sort can come from a batch of homemade cookies.
2. You love to read remember! Please do it more often. I'm not talking daily internet reading. I'm talking about an amazing book, a couch, a blanket and a cup of tea. The real deal.
3. I know you weren't thrilled with hot yoga, but give the regular kind another try. It will get you moving and make you feel better. Side note: one class does not count as a try, please commit at least a month. 

I know you're not to keen on to many rigid rules so I kept the list short and sweet, for now. If you could put the above into practice I will be eternally grateful. Cheersies, life is good.

the stable and relaxed part of you 


I wIsH wE aLl HaD a LiTtLe CrAzY iN uS

MAY 24, 2011

I LOVE THIS! It's from an ad campaign ran by Apple quite some time ago. Nonetheless the years have not deteriorated it's meaning. Although I'm not entirely crazy about the world of marketing and advertising, I can get behind the main point of this message - think different, push forward, question and be proud of it! I believe this kind of mentality should be implemented in our daily lives. It promotes imagination which for so many is lost once they enter the boxed in world of their adult lives. 

As I've gotten older I've realized that everything we know is an opinion, the best available explanation at the time; this to me is pretty self-explanatory. However if you're not picking up what I'm putting down, consider this: once upon a time the Earth was flat, that was truth, that was knowledge. Those who proclaimed it's roundness were not only considered lunatics but were jailed and probably killed. Oh how far we've come since then, nowadays not only is our planet round it's surrounded by a universe in which super-genius humans (unlike myself) can find black holes. HA! Talk about crazy, that's imagination, that's progress.

What confuses me is our strong grip on things that are broken, like the status quo for one. To me the notion itself is a joke. It proposes that we should not only hold onto, but fight for the things of the past even if they are oppressive. Now I am NOT against tradition or culture, both are key elements in our existence and provide a rough guideline to the order of things. Of course we can't forget where we came from, this is why it is important to understand and learn from history, not continuously re-live it. Yes, history repeats itself but only because we let it. 


Some things need to go. For example, I have a problem with the good ol' boys club creating and implementing abortion policy and how it should operate. Yes a bunch of men in their 70's are just perfect for that job, I'm sure they are experts on the entire process especially being able to experience it for themselves and all. Or the notion that gay marriage is ruining the institution. Give me a break, the institution of marriage was weakened by the 50% divorce rate, not to mention it's appearance on reality tv. I didn't see protesters taking to the streets when "Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire" aired. However take two people who are in love and want to express it in front of their family and friends and yup, you got it, institution of marriage naturally ruined. Or better yet, how about a heroin addict getting not only clean but free needles at a safe injection clinic but a diabetic having to pay for theirs. Yup, that's a little messed up. This kind of list of course can go on and on.

However I digress.

All I'm saying is that maybe we need to get a little better at editing the systems which are broken, holding onto and encouraging those which are working and letting go of the ones which are not; all the while staying open to new opportunities and alternatives. Everything we are told is not always right and it's not always how things ought to be. We should question, explore and imagine otherwise we're just living in a carefully crafted little box. I for one am a tad bit, and by tad bit I mean extremely, claustrophobic so that box is just not gonna work for me. 

How about you? What sort of things drive you to be imaginatively crazy and push the envelope? What would you change if the sky was the limit and failure was non-existent?

the outspoken introvert

23 May 2011 in

It Matters Monday

MAY 23, 2011

I stumbled upon a blog today and it made me smile! Since it is in direct correlation with the reasons behind It Matters Monday I had to share it with all of you. We're So Inspired is dedicated to spreading and encouraging happiness, how can you go wrong with that? They have a very admirable goal, to inspire 1 million people in 2011. I want to help them get to that goal, so go on, check out their site. The way I see it inspiration promotes thought, thought promotes action and action inevitably leads to change. Who knows what great things can be accomplished if 1 million people are moved to action.

I started It Matters Monday because I believe that it is important to help each other out. I believe that doing good for others is a necessary part of life. Culturally, North Americans have moved further away from each other and closer to the things they possess, I believe that's wrong. I believe that community is important. I believe in family and I believe in friendship. I believe that little things matter and I believe it is imperative to take the time and notice them. I believe that happiness begins with a life that matters and a life that matters begins with the inspiration for change. 

This video is short, sweet and to the point which makes it right up my alley!

What inspires you?

If you want to be a part of It Matters Monday copy and paste the image from the top of the post. Mention It Matters Monday on your blog and link up below. If you're not a blogger, don't fret let me know what made your Monday awesome in the comments below.

the outspoken introvert

17 May 2011 in

It Matters Monday....on Tuesday

MAY 17, 2011

It's safe to say I have been just a tad bit frustrated with Blogger lately, for some reason I could not post anything yesterday....hence It Matters Monday temporarily moved over to Tuesday. Things don't always go our way, and when that happens it's time to adjust the plan.

This week I decided to help another reader promote her cause, check out her lovely blog here. Gillian introduced me to First Book an organization which helps kids get access to books they would not usually get. I'm an avid believer in reading as a huge part of our mental development. Reading encourages imagination and imagination is what drives our world forward. In the spirit of It Matters Monday....on Tuesday I made a $10 donation to promote reading amongst kids.

What made your Monday awesome?

If you want to be a part of It Matters Monday copy and paste the image from the top of the post. Mention It Matters Monday on your blog and link up below. If you're not a blogger, don't fret let me know what made your Monday awesome in the comments below.

the outspoken introvert

16 May 2011 in

We all need an angel...

MAY 15, 2011

This song is amazing! A big thanks to my super awesome bud who played it for me, you know who you are : )

Now, blare your stereo, lay back and enjoy. There is nothing else to say.

the outspoken introvert 

14 May 2011 in

Let's be reasonable...

MAY 14, 2011

2011 has been a transitional year for me to say the least; actually, it's probably safe to say that about the last couple of years of my life. With all of the changes and adjustments came a very important lesson - ATTITUDE MATTERS! In fact it matters so immensely that it can determine the outcome of a situation as a success or as a failure. 

I'm a HUGE fan of things that make logical sense and maintaining a reasonable attitude is one of them. I am making a distinction here which I think is very important. Reasonable is different than just positive or negative, in that it blends the determination of the positive with the critical analysis of the negative. I believe that positive and negative are both emotion based and too much of either can lead you down the wrong path. Ever hear the saying "listen to your heart, but take your head with you"? I'm basing my theory on the same notion.

In my opinion an overwhelming amount of positive can result in a delusion of sorts. There are situations in life which require critical analysis; pretending everything is peachy keen will not resolve the issue and puts the individual at risk of being taken advantage of. For example, the hope that every human being is kind and loving, they're not; the blind generalization that they are can be dangerous. Too much negative however can also have damaging effects. I always think of the self-fulfilling prophecy, if you think you'll fail you most likely will. More importantly though, an immensely negative attitude can lead to social isolation, substance abuse and depression which can prove very damaging to the individual. 

Ralph Waldo Emerson wisely said: "Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense." 

In my eyes a reasonable attitude is doing what you can with what is available at the time. It is not blindly pretending that everything will work out, sometimes it doesn't. It is also not aggressively assuming that everything will shatter into a million pieces, most times it won't. Balance is the key. It is surrounding yourself with those who make you a better person and letting go of the ones who don't. It is taking responsibility for your actions as well as putting effort into changing the things you are not happy with. A reasonable attitude is being proactive, allowing yourself to feel joy as well as sorrow but realizing that they are not permanent states and quite frankly one does not exist without the other. A reasonable attitude is not just hope or criticism, it's action and the ability to adapt to change. This is important because nothing stays the same, that's a certainty of life.

the outspoken introvert  

07 May 2011 in

I'm Versatile....Again!

MAY 7, 2011

The rules:
Thank the blogger that tagged you,  share 7 facts about yourself, pass the award on to 15 other bloggers.

Ok let's do this. Thanks to Sunny from Idyll Toast for this award. This is the second time I have received it so I must be doing something right :)

Now for the seven facts about me:

1. Tulips are my favorite flower and I love when they start blooming in the Spring. It's a lovely time of the year.

2. Saturday is my favorite day of the week, you get to sleep in and stay up late; that's basically phenomenal.

3. When I was 9 I tried to win my mom a car by calling a contest line not realizing there was a cost to it. We were living in Poland at the time and it turned out I was calling Australia. The phone bill was my mom's entire pay cheque - the joys of having kids hey! I was unsuccessful in winning the car, I am now 28 and my mom still brings it up. I don't blame her.

4. I can only have someone walk on my right side, in a bigger group I walk in the middle. It's pretty weird, I don't know how it started however it's a quirk I live with.

5. The best dessert in the world is Tiramisu I could eat it daily!

6. I tremendously respect people with self-confidence who are able to stand up for what they believe in and passionately go after what they want.

7. I love love love to laugh! With most things in life, if you can't laugh about it you need a new perspective. None of us are perfect, all of us screw up and life gets difficult sometimes but few feelings in the world compare to sore cheeks, sore abs and a shortness of breath from a good ol' laugh!

The last rule indicates tagging 15 other bloggers. I decided not to. I appreciate the award very much its fantastic to know that I can ramble on here about whatever comes to mind and people genuinely  enjoy reading it. The tagging rule has too much of a chain letter feel to it though, so I'm going to skip it. 

the outspoken introvert

02 May 2011 in

It Matters Monday

MAY 2, 2011

This week's It Matters Monday is solely based on gratitude! I have to thank two people for making my day. One of them is letting me borrow their truck which is amazing! However, I can't drive super awesomely big trucks so I had to recruit another friend to drive it and help me move and throw away some stuff I no longer need. Both of these things are a huge help to me and I appreciate them so very much.

I know I've said it before but I truly am grateful for the people in my life, I am often awestruck by their desire to help me even at times when it might be inconvenient for them. I am inspired by my family and my friends everyday, they hold me accountable, they don't judge me and they push me to live up to my potential.   

Leo Rosten said:‎"I cannot believe that the purpose of life is (merely) to be happy. I think the purpose of life is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate. I think it is above all to matter, to count, to stand for something. To have it make some difference that you lived at all." I could not agree more, I want to steer my life in a direction that makes a difference. I believe that happiness begins with a life he describes; happiness begins with a life that matters!

Let me know what you stand for I would love to hear about it.

If you want to be a part of It Matters Monday copy and paste the image from the top of the post. Mention It Matters Monday on your blog and link up below. If you're not a blogger, don't fret let me know what made your Monday awesome in the comments below.

the outspoken introvert

30 April 2011 in

Plain Hilarity

APRIL 30, 2011

I really don't think it's much of a secret, I am easily entertained!

I find this hilarious and I'm of the opinion that someone who doesn't should reevaluate their sense of humor. Hopefully I'm not the only one who finds this funny, that would be kind of......well awkward.

the outspoken introvert

28 April 2011 in

I Spoke Too Soon...

APRIL 28, 2011

On Monday I was cautiously excited about the prospect of Spring. Well today my fears were realized. I'm looking outside and a blanket of snow is covering the ground. Go figure, sigh.

However I discovered this little gem and I've been smiling ever since. It's definitely one of those songs that makes you sit back and think. I love the animation and on a snowy day this tune is hitting all the right notes, leaving me in the most mellow of moods.

If I didn't have to work I'm be searching for a fire place and a glass of wine.

Let me know what you think?

the outspoken introvert

27 April 2011 in

Wednesday with words...

APRIL 27, 2011

I've noticed on many blogs today is Wordless Wednesday. Well I decided to go against the grain and have a Wednesday that celebrates words, because, well I love them!

I think celebrating words is important, they are the key ingredient in our ability to communicate with one another. Having lived through the beginning of what is now commonly known as the social media phenomenon I have noticed the development of a new language. I'm going to call it SMS - Social Media Speak. I guarantee that you have not only seen but used it yourself. I sure have! Here's some examples:

1. LOL 
2. BTW
3. WTF
4. OMG

For those more advanced in SMS there is also:

3. IDK
4. WRUD?

Not only are we beginning to comprise a language made out of acronyms, some pretty common words are starting to look a bit different than how I remember them.

1. U - you
2. UR - you're, your 
3. DUN - done
4. CUD - could

I'm fully aware that a lot of this evolution has come with the all mighty text message paired with our need to make everything more efficient. The faster you can type it the better, right? I've been guilty of SMSing when I'm in a rush but I prefer things to be described in words, not letters. Call me old fashioned but you're not going to catch me throwing a WUD out there. I bet the O and the L feel really left out when completely dropped, it WOULD be nice to include them, just saying. 

I came across a site the other day and I got quite a kick out of it. Check out Save The Words it's fairly easy to navigate and definitely celebrates all sorts of words, you can even adopt one! Pretty fantastically spectacular, I know.

the outspoken introvert 

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