14 May 2011 in

Let's be reasonable...

MAY 14, 2011

2011 has been a transitional year for me to say the least; actually, it's probably safe to say that about the last couple of years of my life. With all of the changes and adjustments came a very important lesson - ATTITUDE MATTERS! In fact it matters so immensely that it can determine the outcome of a situation as a success or as a failure. 

I'm a HUGE fan of things that make logical sense and maintaining a reasonable attitude is one of them. I am making a distinction here which I think is very important. Reasonable is different than just positive or negative, in that it blends the determination of the positive with the critical analysis of the negative. I believe that positive and negative are both emotion based and too much of either can lead you down the wrong path. Ever hear the saying "listen to your heart, but take your head with you"? I'm basing my theory on the same notion.

In my opinion an overwhelming amount of positive can result in a delusion of sorts. There are situations in life which require critical analysis; pretending everything is peachy keen will not resolve the issue and puts the individual at risk of being taken advantage of. For example, the hope that every human being is kind and loving, they're not; the blind generalization that they are can be dangerous. Too much negative however can also have damaging effects. I always think of the self-fulfilling prophecy, if you think you'll fail you most likely will. More importantly though, an immensely negative attitude can lead to social isolation, substance abuse and depression which can prove very damaging to the individual. 

Ralph Waldo Emerson wisely said: "Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense." 

In my eyes a reasonable attitude is doing what you can with what is available at the time. It is not blindly pretending that everything will work out, sometimes it doesn't. It is also not aggressively assuming that everything will shatter into a million pieces, most times it won't. Balance is the key. It is surrounding yourself with those who make you a better person and letting go of the ones who don't. It is taking responsibility for your actions as well as putting effort into changing the things you are not happy with. A reasonable attitude is being proactive, allowing yourself to feel joy as well as sorrow but realizing that they are not permanent states and quite frankly one does not exist without the other. A reasonable attitude is not just hope or criticism, it's action and the ability to adapt to change. This is important because nothing stays the same, that's a certainty of life.

the outspoken introvert  

31 Comments So Far:

  1. Love Emerson. Agree with you whole heartdly here.

  2. Hey nice blog. I love the name. It's brilliant. :)

  3. Good post, I like what you have to say :) looks like you have an interesting blog here, glad I found it!

  4. Emmerson is a genious. I love that picture!

  5. hey there.

    excellent phrase - reasonable attitude. i got quite tired with the 'positive thinking' brigade. it's not feasible. i'm an optimist, but consider myself a realist too. look forward, think well, take your hard earned lessons with you and be prepared for whatever life throws at you.

    thing is, sometimes, the 'bad' teaches us the best lessons. too much skewed towards PT can make people paranoid about anything untoward occurring.

    anyway, enjoying your blog.... :)

  6. Thank you all for you comments, I appreciate it :)

    I'm glad my ramblings make some sense and have found an audience, it's a really good feeling.

  7. It's all about the attitude, really and negative people wear me down! Excellent post and quote by Emerson! 'Finish the day and be done with it!'

  8. Very wonderful post! Change something to be happy. If it doesn't work, change something else. :-)

  9. Seems fairly simple doesn't it, I often wonder why it's so hard to implement :)

    Thanks for stopping by!


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