12 December 2012 in , ,

Hey you, yea...you. Listen up.


Here's the thing, in an extroverted world there are a lot of misconceptions about those who are introverted. Like moi. Yea me, in French. I'd like to get some of these straightened out; feel like I'm passing on some knowledge up in here.

Without further ado let's get started with the one that really gets my goat. 

You're a snob or there must me something wrong with you. In the spirit of honesty I will admit sometimes I can be a bit snobby, but for the most part it's not that at all. I simply can't stomach chit-chat. If I have to do it I will, but I really don't care about the temperature outside or the fact that it snowed again. Small talk is awkward and I don't do awkward. There is also nothing wrong with me. When I find a topic that I'm passionate about, I talk so much people want me to shut up; but when I'm quiet they ask what's wrong. I must be upset. I can't win. I don't get it, sometimes I just don't feel like talking. It really is as simple as that. 

You hate other people or are anti-social. Yes. Sometimes people piss me off and I do kinda hate them. However that passes and love and laughter prevail. The key difference here is that I hate them because they did something that upset me, not because I'm introverted. I'm not anti-social either. I will go to a huge party  and be just fine. That's because I'm outgoing. The thing is, big groups tire me out. After a while, like most introverts, I want to go home. I prefer small group soirees with people I know well. Why? No small talk, that's why. I thought we discussed this already. Keep up. I'm in my glory with a glass of wine and one on one action. I love the deep, thoughtful conversations. Oh they give me goosebumps. In short, I prefer to really know someone as opposed to superficial interactions. Bullshit has never been my thing.

You like to write, you're probably a shy loner. Actually. I'm not shy. I'm also not a loner. I do love to write though. Introverts need alone time in a quiet environment. While extroverts gain their energy from being around other people, introverts gain their energy from being alone. Writing is the perfect way to recharge my batteries so to speak. It allows me to focus and think about what I want to get across. I find I have a lot more to contribute after I've had time to think. For me, "damn it, I should have said that!" is a recurring thought two hours after a situation took place. As for the loner part. I have many awesomely close friends. I believe in quality over quantity. I do prefer to keep in touch with them through face to face hang outs. I don't like talking on the phone. I find it imprisoning. I get very easily distracted and being on the phone interferes with accomplishing other tasks I want to get to. Like with every rule there are exceptions. I do much better when I know someone is going to call me in fifteen minutes or an hour or some time in the future. I can focus then and it's totally fine. Out of the blue phone calls though, I most likely won't answer.

Consider yourself enlightened and straightened out.

the outspoken introvert    

12 Comments So Far:

  1. thank you so much for such an amazingly well-written and "plain speak" post. i often try to explain the challenges of being introverted to extroverts but it always comes out wrong and sounding like, "you tire me and i don't want to be near you" which is not at all the case. i've shared this in hopes that it helps some people understand a little more about introverts. thanks again.

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  2. Thanks for visiting, I'm glad you like it. It was time to clear some things up!

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