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28 April 2013 in , ,


A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.

         Kurt Vonnegut

17 April 2013 in , ,

Why yes, mistakes is my middle name.

Yea, I've dated the wrong people. I've said the wrong thing. I bought a house at the wrong time. I chose a generic degree. I got drunk to many times. I paid a small fortune in speeding tickets. I smoked, and not just cigarettes. I've been in accidents. I've skirted responsibility. I've been dishonest. I've been selfish. I've hurt people. I could go on, but it's redundant. 

I've made mistakes. 

Everyday I'm just trying to figure things out. Isn't that what we're all doing. Going left and going right trying to find our groove in this place. That groove, that middle ground is what Aristotle called the "golden mean". The perfect balance between excess and deficiency. On paper that guy seems to have it all figured out.

But I digress...

The point I'm making is that our mistakes do not define us. Sure, they challenge our character and hopefully teach us to be better. I mean, if you keep making the same mistakes over and over and over and over. That's your problem, not only that, it's stupid. 

Mistakes don't define our entire life. 

Dwelling is such a useless emotion. There are some instances where you have to go through the motions. Whether it's anger, grief, embarrassment, guilt  or pain. Let yourself feel whatever you need to feel in order to move on. But eventually forgive yourself and part ways with those emotions, they have to be expendable. Believe me, you'll need your mental strength for the next crap shoot you find yourself in.

For all y'all perfect folks. If you haven't made mistakes, if you always travel this world like a straight arrow -  congratulations! You are not living, you are standing still.

the outspoken introvert

15 April 2013 in , , ,

Tipping Point

I love the above quote from Don Winslow. It's so clever! I love myself some clever. 

The way I see it there comes a tipping point in each life where you must accept yourself. It is not any more what you will become. It is what you are and always will be. The idea is petrifying and liberating all at once. Pretending to be someone you're not is complete nonsense. Why would you try to fit a circle inside a square?

Now go into the world and share your new found wisdom. Happy Monday.

the outspoken introvert

14 April 2013 in

Spring? Dream on...

I was actually contemplating painting my toesies the other day in preparation for Flip Flop Day. It's that first day you get to wear flip flops again after a long drawn out affair with socks and boots. I love that day, and every other day I get to wear flippies.

Alas, nothing says Spring like twenty five centimetres of snow in the middle of April. So, since I live in what seems to be the equivalent of Antarctica I'm glad I didn't waste my time. Undoubtedly, Flip Flop day and my foot preparation have been postponed until Mother Nature decides to stop puking up snow.

the outspoken introvert

11 April 2013 in , ,

Beautiful People


09 April 2013 in , ,

Do you really want honesty?

I got a kick out of this. It resonates with me.

Most people claim they appreciate honesty, but do they? It seems to me that when questions are asked the answer is already pre-determined by the person asking the question. It's like a script, they ask, and you are expected to play your part and answer with what they want to hear.

Classic Example:

Chick - "Does my ass look fat in these jeans?" (Even though she knows her ass looks fat in those jeans, she has eyes of her own and they function just fine.)
Dude - "Yes, it looks a little fat. Maybe try a different pair." (That's honesty)
Chick - "Oh my God, that's so rude." (She's offended. Because obviously he should have answered that her ass does not look fat. It's what she wants. The validation, not honesty.)

Two weeks later:

Chick - "Seriously, I can't believe you said my ass looks fat in those jeans."

The variation of the above example ranges from serious to petty and the situations are endless.

I've been that person. I've been the one expecting a certain response and getting honesty instead. Haven't you? HA! Honesty, it can be a wretched bitch. It leaves us vulnerable. It strips us down and we have nothing to hide behind.

I've also been the honest one many times. The one giving an answer someone else doesn't want to hear. The funny thing about truth is, not wanting to hear it doesn't change the fact that it's true. It hits you like a backhand. That's why wishes aren't the only thing to be careful with. Consider your demand for honesty carefully and be prepared to turn the other cheek.

Honestly, if you can't handle the truth; don't ask me.

the outspoken introvert

08 April 2013 in

It Matters Monday

Cupcakes for everyone. Because it was Monday, and these were so sweet.

Did you do something nice today?

the outspoken introvert

07 April 2013 in ,

Do you have peace?

Someone asked me if I have peace?

Currently, my life looks like this:

I have four jobs.
1. Full-time I do legal and research work in oil royalties.
2. I'm a part-time Bookkeeper.
3. I'm a part-time Mortgage  Broker.
4. I'm a part-time Waitress at a wicked little Italian place.

I'm going to school.
1. Monday evening (Environmental Regulations)
2. Thursday evening (Land Concepts)
3. Whenever I have time (Integrated Approach to the Oil and Gas Industry - on-line)

I'm exercising.
1. Monday at lunch - Yoga
2. Friday at lunch - Kick-boxing

I try to have a life.
1. Tuesday evening
2. Wednesday evening
3. Sunday
   *These are subject to change depending on how much is going on with everything else.

My life is busy and it is chaotic but my answer is, yes, I have peace.

I have peace, but I'm lonely.

the outspoken introvert

03 April 2013 in ,

Ain't it so

Easy come. Easy Go.

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