09 April 2013 in , ,

Do you really want honesty?


I got a kick out of this. It resonates with me.

Most people claim they appreciate honesty, but do they? It seems to me that when questions are asked the answer is already pre-determined by the person asking the question. It's like a script, they ask, and you are expected to play your part and answer with what they want to hear.

Classic Example:

Chick - "Does my ass look fat in these jeans?" (Even though she knows her ass looks fat in those jeans, she has eyes of her own and they function just fine.)
Dude - "Yes, it looks a little fat. Maybe try a different pair." (That's honesty)
Chick - "Oh my God, that's so rude." (She's offended. Because obviously he should have answered that her ass does not look fat. It's what she wants. The validation, not honesty.)

Two weeks later:

Chick - "Seriously, I can't believe you said my ass looks fat in those jeans."

The variation of the above example ranges from serious to petty and the situations are endless.

I've been that person. I've been the one expecting a certain response and getting honesty instead. Haven't you? HA! Honesty, it can be a wretched bitch. It leaves us vulnerable. It strips us down and we have nothing to hide behind.

I've also been the honest one many times. The one giving an answer someone else doesn't want to hear. The funny thing about truth is, not wanting to hear it doesn't change the fact that it's true. It hits you like a backhand. That's why wishes aren't the only thing to be careful with. Consider your demand for honesty carefully and be prepared to turn the other cheek.

Honestly, if you can't handle the truth; don't ask me.

the outspoken introvert

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